It is not unusual for people to imagine the divorce process as spouses fighting in front of a judge. However, the reality is often very different from this. Not only do most people never set foot in a courtroom, but the process is generally more collaborative than combative.
And this collaboration means that other people are generally part of this process.
- Financial professionals: Finances are one of the most complicated aspects of a divorce. Understanding your assets and liabilities, categorizing property and calculating equalization payments can be very complex. Because the property division process has very real economic impacts on parties, securing the help of professionals like financial analysts and accountants is crucial – particularly if you have substantial assets.
- Therapists and counsellors: Whether you have been through a divorce before or not, it is not unusual to feel scared, confused or stressed out at this time. You may be worried about your children’s well-being, as well. With so much changing in your life and future, speaking with a therapist or counsellor can help you develop healthy strategies and skills, making coping and overcoming future challenges easier.
- A lawyer: Yes, divorce is an emotional process, to be sure. However, it is also a legal one, meaning that there will be legal matters you must address. Without the guidance of legal professionals, it can be easier to make mistakes or missteps that ultimately delay the process or result in unfair or invalid agreements.
These parties generally have valuable experience and training navigating these issues, which you may not. With their support, it can be easier to move forward after divorce.
Other people to reach out to
While people like those mentioned above play a pivotal role in divorce, a person doesn’t need to be a professional to be helpful.
Leaning on your personal support system is often crucial during this time. Your friends, family, neighbours and even colleagues can be helpful in many ways. They might:
- Participate in a meal train
- Help you with babysitting or picking up your kids
- Lend a supportive ear during tough times
- Help you complete projects
- Accompany you on social outings
- Spend time with you
These and other acts can provide incredible support during this time, so don’t be afraid to reach out to them to get the help you need.